Maybe You Can Have Your Cake and Eat it Too?
A FEEL GOOD invitation: to consider that you can have your cake AND eat it too:). I used to spend a lot of time in a large doomed place in my brain called the land of “it’s impossible”. In that space I would lament the many things that I could not have. Sometimes it was stuff like “I can’t be a pathologist AND a life coach!” or “I cannot have 4 kids, work all the time AND have a great marriage” or “I can’t have enough money to live on and do work I love”. Thinking and believing these things truly FELT TERRIBLE. They were poison for my FEEL GOOD. Each time would think them, I would go to the very darkest place and feel horrible and hopelesss. And my life would reflect back to me what I had been thinking. My clients come to me with similar thoughts but ones that are unique to them. We all have them…..
What is yours? I can’t have _________ and ____________, that would be impossible!
What I have learned is that when we flip those upside down some pretty funny stuff can start happening.
Try it for yourself:
I can have _______ and ____________!
I can go to church and be in a metal band!
I can get paid and be who I really am, just me!
I can experience joy and build sinuous muscular definition!
Even if we do not believe the reverse to be true, our brain starts to google search for possiblity, unlock options and , at the very least, bring us opportunities to experience peace. Then- see if you can notice where this ridiculous statement is already true in your life….in your neck of the woods…..in the world?
Let me know how it goes! I would love to hear from you! ~Sarah
I’m just starting to grok this concept. Thanks for the reminder.