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Photo above: DREAMS do come true. Here we are post-divorce on a family adventure in Puerto Rico!
We did it!!
1. In a world of hurt, PLEASURE IS NECESSARY!
Are you getting some? As I reentered the dating world in early 2026, I decided that maybe it was time I upgrade my sex knowledge and MAN am I glad I did! I discovered OMGYES is a research-based website and company focused on women’s sexual pleasure, often collaborating with academic researchers, including those affiliated with institutions like Indiana University and previously, studies connected to Yale’s research interests. It offers educational, science-backed videos and tutorials on techniques for sexual satisfaction. The videos are not porny or creepy- it’s just real amazing women teaching you their best methods! Check it out! https://www.omgyes.com/members/home
If you are already in a relationship and would love more pleasure- I highly recommend that you follow Vanessa and Xander Marin- they are a most adorable 40 something couple- she’s a sex therapist (a job my mother wanted me to have!!) and they make the BEST content- so relateable and I have learned so much from them. Here’s an example of their work.
And for sex in our 60’s and beyond this woman is BOMB (this is an interview of her!)
2. PLAY IS DESPERATELY NEEDED NOW.
Whether you are ih a partnership or single- here are some great ideas from
@explorewithMaz_ With creativity you can use them with family, kids and grandkids too!
The strongest relationships aren’t built only on deep talks and expensive dinners.They’re built on micro-moments of play.
Research on long-term couples shows that shared novelty + laughter = higher relationship satisfaction and resilience. It lowers stress and increases bonding hormones 💑
Here are 7 Playful Rituals That Actually Work;
1. The 10-Min “No Phones, No Logistics” Rule
Every evening:
No admin.
No chores.
No problem-solving.
Just talk nonsense, flirt, or sit close.
(this builds presence instead of productivity)
2. Weekly “Be 12 Yrs Old Again” Challenge
Once a week, do something mildly ridiculous:
• Run in the rain
• Play hide and seek in the house
• Make a pillow fort
• Race to the car
• Climb something you probably shouldn’t
3. The “Micro-Adventure” Ritual
One tiny unpredictable thing a week:
• Try a new café
• Go a different route
• Sunset mission with snacks
• Swim somewhere random
Novelty resets stagnation.
4. The 30-Second Hug Reset
No talking.
Just a full 30-second hug when one of you gets home.
It regulates your nervous systems.
It signals: you’re safe here.
(Man I love hugs! 😍❤️)
5. The “Us vs The World” Game
When something annoying happens, instead of snapping:
Turn it into a team moment.
“Right. It’s us against this chaos.”
This builds unity instead of friction.
6. Voice Note Appreciation
Send each other random voice notes in the week:
“Just thinking about how grateful I am for you.”
It keeps connection alive outside the routine.
7. The “Silly First” Rule
When tension rises, try play before seriousness.
Funny accent.
Ridiculous dance.
Play can interrupt defensiveness.
Connection doesn’t always need candles and reservations!!
Sometimes it just needs:
• eye contact
• novelty
• shared stupidity
• and a nervous system that feels safe
Because play says:
“I still choose you.”
Even on ordinary Tuesdays ❤️❤️❤️
I am wishing you a wondrous rest of July and know that I AM HERE FOR YOU! You can book a shamanic healiing or coaching or divination here.
with love,
Sarah
P.S. SAVE THE DATE
when: August 13 (Wednesday!)
what: I’ll be hosting an open house from 4:30 pm- 7 pm
where: Knife River —–221 Scenic Drive Knife RIver—–
I’ll have light refreshments and lots of art to peek at and purchase! Come see! Plus chocolate (next door at Great Lakes Candy Kitchen) and a bear forest art tour next door!
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