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Do PRETTY CONCERNS hold you back?


My brilliant friend and digital Shaman Marian Lansky sent me a quote she found on Pinterest, my latest not-guilty FEEL GOOD pleasure.
The quote was this:

“You Don’t Have to Be Pretty. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked “female”.

Me & Sister Maria- at about as “pretty” as I get.

I thought to myself….huh? Do I feel like I have to be pretty? As in, wash my hair, apply makeup, accessorize etc?? On one hand…I often kind of enjoy getting all “balls to the wall pretty” as my sister, Maria likes to joke….and a lot of the time, I really could don’t give a rat’s arse. When I am alone or with my family or friends I feel no need to be “pretty”. However,  when faced with the choice to do a video or not… I often sigh heavily if I am not already in the “pretty” state because (I believe) I would have to go do that. So I guess YES- sometimes Pretty concerns hold me back. AND, sometimes I feel pretty without doing anything – i.e. sans makeup or other decoration. But, as the author of the quote later points out,  some pretty “has a shelf life”.  Or does it?   Is pretty simply a state of mind? I think that the woman in the video below is not just pretty but stunning and gorgeous:) “Pretty” is in the eye of the beholder I suppose. Does needing to feel pretty (when you don’t) hold you back?

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  • Connie Pace 16 Feb, 12:36 am

    Thank you…I needed this today and the video is just beautiful…tears now.

  • Melissa 17 Feb, 2:39 pm

    Thanks Sarah…I love seesters (I have 2 by birth and many by choice), your musings on pretty and the vid, great inspirations!

  • sarah 18 Feb, 11:48 pm

    Thank you Connie and melissa:) We are all beautiful with or without our “pretty” 🙂

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